Thanks Lauren. I don’t hold onto acronyms easily but a counselor friend mentioned this one years ago and it was such an accurate description of shame that it has stayed with me!
Great post! I've never heard that shame acronym before. I'm already pondering it. I think I most need permission to rest and permission to play. I allow myself to do these things on annual retreat, but far less so in my daily life.
Thanks, friend. It’s good to realize that the S.H.A.M.E. acronym isn’t known far and wide. We reference it around our house often enough that I assume everyone knows it. I definitely agree with more rest and more play. The kayaks are on top of the car and we are en route to the lake as I write this!
The shame acronym is new to me. A dear, older friend exemplifies the determination to be a lifelong learner, which sounds noble, yet it means being a humble beginner even in our 40s, 50s, and beyond. There’s tremendous relief in the realization that we don’t have to be experts! It takes the pressure off and gives us room to change and improve and grow.
Hi Jana, thanks for reading. When I was younger I thought every woman eventually got to a place of knowing. A place of complete confidence. A place of just holding their wisdom at the ready to disperse to younger women. At first, it was a bit of a blow to arrive at my 40's (now more than half way through) and find out that wasn't the case. But then came the grace, and as you said the relief, that we don't have to be experts! Throwing off the pressure and the shame, yes!
I love this!! Permission slip to be a beginner AND the acronym for shame! I’ve never heard that before! Thanks for sharing!
Thanks Lauren. I don’t hold onto acronyms easily but a counselor friend mentioned this one years ago and it was such an accurate description of shame that it has stayed with me!
Great post! I've never heard that shame acronym before. I'm already pondering it. I think I most need permission to rest and permission to play. I allow myself to do these things on annual retreat, but far less so in my daily life.
Thanks, friend. It’s good to realize that the S.H.A.M.E. acronym isn’t known far and wide. We reference it around our house often enough that I assume everyone knows it. I definitely agree with more rest and more play. The kayaks are on top of the car and we are en route to the lake as I write this!
Love this, Aimee. Thank you so much for sharing!!!
Thanks, Ashlee, love your book! And what you share on Substack as well.
The shame acronym is new to me. A dear, older friend exemplifies the determination to be a lifelong learner, which sounds noble, yet it means being a humble beginner even in our 40s, 50s, and beyond. There’s tremendous relief in the realization that we don’t have to be experts! It takes the pressure off and gives us room to change and improve and grow.
Hi Jana, thanks for reading. When I was younger I thought every woman eventually got to a place of knowing. A place of complete confidence. A place of just holding their wisdom at the ready to disperse to younger women. At first, it was a bit of a blow to arrive at my 40's (now more than half way through) and find out that wasn't the case. But then came the grace, and as you said the relief, that we don't have to be experts! Throwing off the pressure and the shame, yes!