I can very much relate to the work of “Bob”—many times he’s looking out in ways he no longer needs to. 😌 Are you familiar with Internal Family Systems (IFS)? It’s been an eye-opening and healing therapy approach and has helped me face/nurture/embrace the various “protector” parts inside me. I love hearing about the role reversal that’s taken place over these recent years. You must feel so relieved your daughter’s procedure went well!
PS. Would you be willing to share the name of the podcast interview? The link didn’t work for me and I want to find it on Spotify!
I think I've been indirectly introduced to IFS through my counselor. Part of giving a name and the image of the protector part as a baby is because as I wrote this I could hear my counselor's voice, "What does that protector part look like?" and "how do you feel toward that protector part". It took me a long time to see the good in that protector part and have compassion but now I have heaps of compassion. In many ways that part kept me alive.
Very glad to hear my daughter laughing downstairs as I write these words!
Great post! I love how one phrase can help shape our experience of something and I love that you let the phrase linger and help you instead of dismissing it.
I really appreciate the insights you share in these posts! This pairs so nicely with your comfort zone essay- thinking about how to navigate the waters of stressful situations, chosen or not!
Thanks, Kerri. As I wrote this one I began to wonder if I was ending up too close to a similar theme as of late...so I appreciate the word you used of how the essays "pair" together. Thank you for that. It seems we often need several tools ready for navigation in case the first one doesn't work!
Really related to this one, Aimee. I have done so much of this tending work, and it does feel a lot like comforting a small child. But I especially liked the part where you talked about not promising your nervous system everything would be ok. It reminds me of this post I wrote before our 5th was born. IFS has been such a huge part of my healing — learning to be kind to all those parts of myself, even when they’re making life difficult.
I can very much relate to the work of “Bob”—many times he’s looking out in ways he no longer needs to. 😌 Are you familiar with Internal Family Systems (IFS)? It’s been an eye-opening and healing therapy approach and has helped me face/nurture/embrace the various “protector” parts inside me. I love hearing about the role reversal that’s taken place over these recent years. You must feel so relieved your daughter’s procedure went well!
PS. Would you be willing to share the name of the podcast interview? The link didn’t work for me and I want to find it on Spotify!
Looks like it's Happy Sad Confused. https://overcast.fm/+BCF7owS0h4
That's it! Thanks Nancy.
I think I've been indirectly introduced to IFS through my counselor. Part of giving a name and the image of the protector part as a baby is because as I wrote this I could hear my counselor's voice, "What does that protector part look like?" and "how do you feel toward that protector part". It took me a long time to see the good in that protector part and have compassion but now I have heaps of compassion. In many ways that part kept me alive.
Very glad to hear my daughter laughing downstairs as I write these words!
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6KL2iW8SxMdBPZOIbh7KgJ?si=41706a8e040c4eb2
Great post! I love how one phrase can help shape our experience of something and I love that you let the phrase linger and help you instead of dismissing it.
Thanks, friend. More and more I trust that things linger for a reason and try investigate why they resonate.
I really appreciate the insights you share in these posts! This pairs so nicely with your comfort zone essay- thinking about how to navigate the waters of stressful situations, chosen or not!
Thanks, Kerri. As I wrote this one I began to wonder if I was ending up too close to a similar theme as of late...so I appreciate the word you used of how the essays "pair" together. Thank you for that. It seems we often need several tools ready for navigation in case the first one doesn't work!
Really related to this one, Aimee. I have done so much of this tending work, and it does feel a lot like comforting a small child. But I especially liked the part where you talked about not promising your nervous system everything would be ok. It reminds me of this post I wrote before our 5th was born. IFS has been such a huge part of my healing — learning to be kind to all those parts of myself, even when they’re making life difficult.
https://anneliseroberts.substack.com/p/for-the-one-holding-joy-at-arms-length